Being a Congregation with and for Babies
There is all sorts of talk about babies, children, and youth as “the church of the future” but the fact is that they are all a part of the church, right now. Whether a few months, years, decades, or centuries, everyone has a right to be a participant in a community of faith. Having babies in our midst is a reminder of the cycle of life, and that we celebrate new life in all its forms.
It can also be a reminder not to idealize things. A crying baby can be the perfect corrective to the nonsense in Christmas carol lines such as “the little Lord Jesus no crying he makes.” Of course Jesus cried. He was a baby! That is a 100% guarantee. Every Christmas we celebrate a baby, so what is better than to celebrate the divine that exists within every baby, every time we gather?
Babies can also be a good reminder that faith is not all about us. When we are caring for a baby, or even in the presence of a baby, we are reminded how each of us depends on others so that our needs can be met. This is always the case, babies just make it obvious. At the same time, babies remind us of our faith calling to care for others, which we do in many ways in our lives. This is the outward-reaching movement that fuels our outreach work, our pastoral care work, and the shape of our life as a community.
How can we be a community that is supportive of babies?
I think we do a great job of this at Leaside already – there is so much enthusiasm for babies, and willingness to be generous and help out. I’ve heard this from parents of infants who have attended our services and appreciated the warm welcome – so thank you everyone! Even when we do well, it can be useful to review what can be helpful, so here are a few thoughts about how we can be even more welcoming of little ones in our midst:
Familiarize yourself with the practical information parents or caregivers might want to know (see “Babies at Church: the Practical Details”). Then, if a parent or caregiver seems to be looking for something, ask if they need assistance. Try not to make information about options sound unwelcoming (for instance, “there are rocking chairs downstairs” could sound like you are unwelcome here, while“there are rocking chairs in the sanctuary and downstairs, whichever you prefer” makes it clear babies are welcome).
Be enthusiastic about babies but respect their space. Some parents/caregivers like sharing babies, others do not. Some babies love social interactions, while others can be easily overwhelmed.
If a baby is crying during the service, don’t look at them. As a parent or caregiver, having other people watch as you try to calm down a fussy baby can be stressful. If you have a relationship with the parent or caregiver, you will know if they might welcome your help. Otherwise, continue on as you would for any other noise during worship – coughing, etc.
Lend a hand. Ask if you can bring a beverage after the service, or help carry a diaper bag. While often not necessary, these little offers can be appreciated as signs of care.
Thank you for all the ways you already welcome and care for babies, children, youth, parents and caregivers at our church! When we support and celebrate each life, are celebrating and sharing the divine love that connects us all.
Blessings, Rev. Emily Gordon
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